Comments for Ponderances of a Once Single Mother

Comment on White Balance by tysdaddy

tysdaddy — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 13:09:52 +0000

We just had new energy-saving fixtures and bulbs installed in the manufacturing facility where I work, and the difference is amazing. The whole place is brighter and has a different shade of white than it did before, making identifying resistor bands easier.

Interesting how changing a lightbulb can make a big difference . . .

Comment on Cause every little boy should catch a tadpole by tysdaddy

tysdaddy — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:44:12 +0000

Them’s some cool looking frogs! We have had our share lately. My wife took a great shot and posted the picture on her new blog. Look for the She Who Must Be Obeyed page on my blog to visit hers.

And, yes, every kid should play with frogs at least once. Just to get over the “eeww” factor they carry.

Your new “ecosystem” sounds lovely . . .

Comment on Fear and Regrets by Lizabeta

Lizabeta — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:19:05 +0000

Tysdaddy, I had a moment of angst for you too when we found out you were in the hospital. Your children are blessed to have both of you. Keep it that way.

Comment on Fear and Regrets by tysdaddy

tysdaddy — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 19:33:04 +0000

This hurts.

Badly . . .

Comment on Fears by Lizabeta

Lizabeta — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 19:13:39 +0000

Tysdaddy, No… She is still at her Grandmothers house and I have not even had a chance to ask her about her whiteboard. Aside from that, she would be mortified to find I had posted this on the internet. Hence, my complete use of pronouns in all my posts.

My posts are generally written for my own sake. Like a pensieve from Harry Potter. A way to make room in my brain for other things.

Of course… part of her research on Internet Safety will be to find someone on the internet. If she brainstorms hard enough, and searches well…
she might be able to find me here.

Comment on Fears by tysdaddy

tysdaddy — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:45:04 +0000

What a moving post.

Does your daughter know you blogged about all this? I’m curious as to her response . . .

Comment on Fathers Day Reflections by tysdaddy

tysdaddy — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 20:42:14 +0000

Excellent post. Long time, no read. Somehow my subscription to your blog vanished . . . one of many I lost during some recent housecleaning gone awry. I’m glad you stopped in and renewed contact.

My wife and I feel the same way about our kids. While a quiet dinner out is nice at times, there are other times when NOT having the kids there to order silver-dollar pancakes or big banana splits just isn’t any fun at all.

Sounds like you have a great man. Tell him to keep up the great work of being a dad . . .

Comment on Fathers Day Reflections by HAPPY FATHERS DAY! - and some great father stories. « J. Soltys’s Weblog

Sun, 15 Jun 2008 19:04:40 +0000

[...] This next article comes from a woman named Lizabetta who has her own blog detailing her life as a once single mother. In this article, she uses her blog to eloquently convey the appreciation she has for her husband, not just as a spouse, but as a loving, caring father. However, I have to note that I am partial to her writings. She is a visitor to my blog, appreciates my writing, and I have corresponded with her in the past. But even with that being said, it does not take away the beauty or sincerity of her article. Fathers Day Reflections [...]

Comment on Fathers Day Reflections by J. Soltys

J. Soltys — Mon, 09 Jun 2008 13:01:33 +0000

Thank you lizabetta.
And let me offer some praise in return. Your article about the wonderful fathering qualities you admire in your husband is the kind of story we need to hear around Fathers Day. It was a pleasure reading it and I will highlight it on my blog.
But more importantly, I admire that as a woman, you are willing speak up and help men with the issues they face, knowing that some may look upon you as “selling out” the sisterhood.
Sometimes I wonder who is the stronger of the two: a man who speaks out against feminism, or a woman who openly stands up for men and their issues? Sometimes I feel it’s a woman like you.
Thanks again for the kind words. And let me speak for all men when I say thank you for your support.

Comment on Freedom by Kat

Kat — Sun, 25 May 2008 21:15:38 +0000

Now this makes me sad…you taking on the responsibility for your child’s father being absent. I have to give you the perspective of the child of a father who didn’t give a damn…you collect that child support, stop blaming yourself for his father’s heartlessness (because that is what it is, how can anyone have a child in the world and pretend they don’t?), and leave his father to pay the price for his inaction. I know that your son is paying the price as well right now, but with a father who doesn’t care, believe me he’s better off not knowing him. Especially if your husband treats him like his own.

If you don’t want to accept the money for yourself then put it in a savings account for your son when you’re able to do without it. But to think that if he didn’t have to pay to support his child, he might then “give” of himself…he’s a sorry ass bastard if he hasn’t done that on his own.

I don’t mean to sound harsh, I just know how it is to have a father who doesn’t care. I’d have been better off without knowing him, God’s truth. And my mother did everything she could, including signing away her rights to any child support, to try to get him to be a father to us. Some people are just selfish and really don’t care about their children, and it’s left to the rest of us to deal with it. I’m sorry that you have to.